Amanda Palmer's insights always help...

Last night we celebrated the 1st birthday of a friend's child. They were pretty happy about the fact that they have managed to keep their kid alive for 12 months. And then fast forward to this morning, when I’m in the office listening to music whilst working through my morning tasks. I’ve got the Amanda Palmer mix up on YouTube and her song A Mother’s Confession comes on. This largely is a song about keeping going, making mistakes and just trying to keep a small person alive.  

I’m pretty sure that’s going to be me… but, then, I’m pretty sure that’s everyone with kids.

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